Archive - The Second Swim

How Stoicism Eased my Severe Depression

Derren Brown, Happy (2016). A Review.

Mar 22, 2023 •

On Sleeping with Younger Men

I often hear that, in a relationship across an age gap, the older partner is the more powerful.

Jun 1, 2022 •

The Women of 7 October

I can’t stop thinking about them: the women and girls of the Israeli kibbutzim, who were raped on 7 October, less than 8 weeks ago.

Nov 18, 2023 •

On Casual Anti-White Racism

Let's not do this.

Jun 8, 2023 •

Falling Out of Love

After ten weeks of persistent daydreams, painful memories and unrequited longings, I am finally, slowly, beginning to fall out of love.

May 3, 2023 •

Knots Gather at the Comb

In defence of snags, barbs and tangles

Jun 22, 2022 •

The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter

Online dating in my mid-fifties

Apr 20 •

The Skin I'm In

(You can find the audio version of this article here.)

May 25, 2022 •

Why I Suspect Gender Is Real

And Not Just Socially Constructed

Apr 26, 2023 •

The Eye of the Beholder

Beauty in Brisbane

Mar 3, 2023 •

Tinder and the Illusion of Control

As some of you might know, I recently ended a two-year relationship (which actually began through Twitter—I write about this here) and returned to the…

Sep 21, 2022 •

Mistress of Bricks

Counterintuitively, my surname, Italia, has nothing to do with the country of Italy.

May 31, 2023 •

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