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Robert Paterson's avatar

As a young man, I was always attracted to older women. I sought a tutor in the bedroom and an ally in life. Not roles easily found in the young

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Caleb Beers's avatar

"who teaches a coddled young man that there is joy in life, liberates him from the prison of his own emotional numbness..."

One thing that sticks out to me about this line (and, by extension, the rest of this piece) is the fact that we're always looking for someone to save our soul when we're seeking out a romantic partner.

For me, the tension right now is between how silly it is to assume that someone else can do that, and the bizarre awareness that this is precisely what I'm supposed to want. Yes, it's sophomoric to want someone to fix or "rescue" you are whatever. And yet, when we talk about people's complementary strengths, this is precisely what a good relationship looks like for someone in my position. Baffling.

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