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Nat Case's avatar

I think you've maybe got this a bit wrong. I don't think sexual attraction to another person is dependent solely on beauty, and I don't think beauty is an absolute. Sexual attraction is a mysterious stew. Physical beauty is one ingredient, but so is smell, and what one person finds beautiful may leave another person cold. If this guy has told you that he could love you if only you were beautiful, as if beauty were a thing as measurable as your height, then I think he lacks both self knowledge and tact. The French have the term "jolie laid" for a reason. xoxoxo

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Erin E.'s avatar

I found your dance mesmerizing and beautiful. Though I can very much relate to my body no longer matching my inner sense of self. I was also a dancer as a younger person, and I think maybe aging and changing is even more fraught for people who were very much embodied in their youth—athletes and dancers and gymnasts, for example.

I’m sorry the fellow wasn’t as attracted to you as he needed to be. Sounds a bit like a dumbass.

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